I have been thinking about this for several years now and finally attempting to capture a tricky thought.
We are often a victim in our own story. Several times in life we get cornered into a situation where we feel helpless and we consider ourselves as the victim. It has happened with me at school, college, work, with friends, family … basically everywhere. At the same time I have seen so many of my friends being bogged down by this feeling of being a victim. And knowing how real that feeling is, I always fall short of telling them – GIVE IT UP.
It is easy and a very weak choice to think of a situation from a point of view that ‘I am a victim <insert your sorrow tale here>’.
Holding on to that pain and considering yourself a Victim has a payback. A sympathy value that you give yourself, a reason to not take responsibility for what happened. That’s the Victims Curse. It is only an excuse for living life in a certain way. A seemingly easier way. Over time our memories fade, we reconstruct what happened and only consolidate our position as a Victim.
Do you really want to carry that baggage?
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I would also make my first public recommendation for Landmark Education. If you are serious about your life and its impact on this world, you should consider Landmark. Feel free to contact me if you wish to explore Landmark Education.
PS: Thanks to @arpiit for introducing me and also once pointing out this Curse.
I think one way to get out of victims mode in any situation is to think how will you tell stories about it 🙂
http://thecancerus.com/which-story-are-you-telling/
How did I read this post? We seemed to share friends, and thus I landed on this page.
Let me guess, this post was inspired after having attended Landmark? Oh man, the law of diminishing returns and of pushiness…
This was inspired by my friends and conversations 🙂 The last I attended Landmark was in 2010.
Thanks!
Fresh from the Landmark Forum, I see new value in your words. It’s a payoff indeed but not generally worth it.